Suckling, ANR/ABF, Relationships, Why so hard?

I've done some reading in several forums and other web sites about the difficulties that we adults are having in establishing longterm meaningful ANR/ABF (adullt nursing/breast feeding) relationships.

What I see is that one of the individuals is seeing the realtionship as sexual and the other is not. To me an ANR/ABF relationship is not about being sexual. It is about sharing ones self completely with the other in a most intimate, caring and relaxing way. There is a special bond being built here. And when this is going on both individuals will be at a relaxed state as opposed to an aroused state.

Suckling I find to be very calming and comforting. It does not matter wether the lady is lactating or not. Just to be able to latch on and suckle for a long period of time is what I enjoy. We can be clothed laying on the sofa watching TV with my head on a pillow in her lap while I suckle. Again it is the bonding that is going on and not being sexual. I also find it very enjoyable to suckle when waking or going to sleep. And as odd as it may seem I enjoy having my breasts suckled as well.

Yes breast play can lead to very exciting sexual encounters but the joy, comfort and relaxation of suckling can be just as gratifying.

So it appears to come down to expectations. Where one will think it will lead to a full on sexual encounter and the other is just looking for comfort and relaxation. And when neithers expectations are met then both are let down.