Suckling, ANR/ABF, Relationships, Why so hard?

I've done some reading in several forums and other web sites about the difficulties that we adults are having in establishing longterm meaningful ANR/ABF (adullt nursing/breast feeding) relationships.

What I see is that one of the individuals is seeing the realtionship as sexual and the other is not. To me an ANR/ABF relationship is not about being sexual. It is about sharing ones self completely with the other in a most intimate, caring and relaxing way. There is a special bond being built here. And when this is going on both individuals will be at a relaxed state as opposed to an aroused state.

Suckling I find to be very calming and comforting. It does not matter wether the lady is lactating or not. Just to be able to latch on and suckle for a long period of time is what I enjoy. We can be clothed laying on the sofa watching TV with my head on a pillow in her lap while I suckle. Again it is the bonding that is going on and not being sexual. I also find it very enjoyable to suckle when waking or going to sleep. And as odd as it may seem I enjoy having my breasts suckled as well.

Yes breast play can lead to very exciting sexual encounters but the joy, comfort and relaxation of suckling can be just as gratifying.

So it appears to come down to expectations. Where one will think it will lead to a full on sexual encounter and the other is just looking for comfort and relaxation. And when neithers expectations are met then both are let down.

Body Parts - Turn Ons and Offs

Why is it we humans find we are turned on by certain body parts yet despise others?

What are breasts covered with? Skin, yes there are underlying parts that help define them but what we see and touch is skin. And that goes for any and all of our body parts.

So if someone can suckle a womans or mans breast they should also have no problems with any other part of the body provided the entire body is clean and has no external wounds.

Now I can understand there may be some misgivings about suckling on body parts with hair due to them coming loose and wanting not to ingest them. Though on the other hand there are those who prefer an unshaven or trimmed body.

Therefore in my thinking if it brings one pleasure they should be able to indulge in it, from their toes, to the top of their head and all points in between, leaving none untouched.

Recall in the book of Genesis humans were created by God and were naked and they had no shame. It was not until they ate from the tree of knowledge that they saw themselves as naked and covered themselves. Why do you think we were created naked? I think it it was because He knew He created us to see each other as a whole not in part and certainly not to be ashamed of our bodies or to lust after or shy away from certain parts of our bodies.

Love Them Anyway!

It is all about Love.

 

Love of oneself, all encompassing love of oneself, no I'm not talking the hey look at me I'm all that and your not, it's a different kind of love.

 

Then expand it to include those around you, Love them anyway. After all they deserve love just as much as you. So they're idiots, love them anyway. Think of them as puppies or kittens, they're gonna crap and piss all over you, but you love them anyway. You can love them and not even be a part of their life.

 

Something else I've learned about people, most times, their likes are not my likes. I heard this somewhere and it fits;

 

Some Will, Some Won't, So What, Next!

 

Think of it like a compass SW-SW-SW-N

 

Enjoy and Love

Web Hosts - Love Hate

Been dealing with a web host for more than 8 years. They have quietly taken my money and hosted some sites for my partners.

Well about a week ago the sites just went offline! We checked the accounts and yes all were paid and nothing was owed so it became a what's wrong here deal. Contacted their tech support and well they claimed it was the code that was wrong as they did not do anything at their end. Funny though how five sites went down at the same time.

Went through the log files and found there were entries pointing directly to them as having created the problems. So it was a call back to their tech support and once again nothing was done and it had to be the sites code not their problem, asked for a supervisor and after reexplaining the problem oh yes they did do a "Security Update" at the time the sites went offline and yet that should not have affected the sites in any way. They did this without telling anyone they were, what it was they were doing and how it might affect customers sites and what customers could do to fix the problems.

I asked what the update did and he read some technical stuff which I understood and finished reading by saying "Whatever that means." This is a supervisor in that department who has no clue what it is they are supporting! Talk about being promoted well beyond their level of incompetence.

We had to find solutions for issues they created. And they could not offer the least bit of support.

The good news is the sites are back up and we are in the process of looking for another hosting provider.